When researchers at the University of Toronto and the University of Washington observed young people’s behavior in bars, they found that the man’s aggressiveness didn’t match his level of intoxication. There was no relationship.
Instead, men targeted women who were intoxicated.NPR: If He’s Sexually Aggressive in Bars, It’s Not Because He’s Drunk (via glorious—headfuck)
The sun doesnt give a shit about you the stars aren’t proud of you the plants arent happy you exist I’m so tired of this fucking website
people saying harmless things to cheer others up makes me SO MAD and theres NOTHING WORSE and THIS WEBSITE IS ABSOLUTE TRASH how can people do things that have NO EFFECT ON ME to try and spread positive vibes I AM A PISSBABY SUPREME
Anonymous asked: Pregnant and recently pregnant women are more likely to be victims of homicide than to die of any other cause, and evidence exists that a significant proportion of all female homicide victims are killed by their intimate partners. Pregnancy can be an especially dangerous time for women in abusive relationships, and abuse can often begin or escalate during the pregnancy. Don't EVER say an abortion is not needed to escape abuse or death because you CLEARLY have no idea what you're talking about.
Well if a woman is in abusive relationship and the guy isn’t much short of having her at gunpoint and threatens her and black mails her into an abortion, or scares her into an abortion, and there’s next to nothing she can do, then he is an evil piece of scum. The abortion is still murder, but I’d say the blood is on his hands, not hers.
Let me be clear though, the abortion is still completely wrong. And an unborn human being is still equally is dead and mutilated. - Gabbie
Have you ever been in an abusive relationship before Gabbie? I’m willing to bet you probably haven’t. Let me explain then.
The abuser WANTS their victim pregnant usually. They WANT a child involved so that the person has no choice but to stay with them under their power, they use that to their advantage and use the child as leverage to prevent their victim from escaping.
THAT is why abuse victims need abortions. We need them because we cannot be trapped with our abusers, because we know it will kill us and because we know what sort of future that child will end up with.
If I had gotten pregnant off my abusive ex I can say with 100% certainty that I would have aborted and would not have regretted it for an instant. Because if I hadn’t and been pregnant? Well for one think I would have taken my own life. (But my life doesn’t matter to you does it?).
For another it would have made me financially dependant on my abuser, because an unemployed, depressed 18 year old with no financial support and no education simply cannot survive as a single parent in my city. And adoption would not have been an option either considering pregnancy cost and maintenance in addition to pregnancy being a potentially massive mental health trauma.
If you have never experienced abuse in a relationship or rape, then do yourself a favour and please, never, ever talk about it because you don’t know shit and you’re ignorance is both appalling and insulting. Especially considering you would be perfectly happy to have trapped me with my abuser and perfectly okay with me killing myself. Just so long as I didn’t have an abortion instead.
When my mom was in her early 20s, she was in a relationship with a somewhat abusive guy and he got her pregnant. Within the first few weeks of them finding out, his abuse escalated to the point that he was physically hurting her and preventing her from seeing her friends or family. He was extremely controlling, manipulative, and paranoid. She knew if she had the child, even if they broke up, she would have obviously been forced to keep that abuser in her life for decades because he would have requested custody and visitation rights. Finally one day, without telling him, she moved out of their shared apartment and got an abortion. Because of the choice she made, I am alive today. I was the wanted child she was able to have because she had access to abortion services as a young woman.